It’s true what they say, that love makes us see things through rose-tinted glasses. When we’re with someone that we truly care about, everything else seems to fade away. We look past all the terrible things that they do and all the pain that it causes us. Sadly, it’s far too easy to fall into the trap of someone who’s toxic.
I, like many other women out there, fell prey to this trap. I lost myself to a malicious person and thought that it was love. It’s a fate that I wouldn’t wish on anyone, not even my worst enemy. Because of my experiences, I’m sending out this message to every innocent woman whose heart was broken by a toxic man.
You Will Figure Out Who You Are Again
I know that when you two were together, he destroyed every bit of who you really are deep down. He made you meld your interests with his interests, drop your friends, and give up on all your dreams. It can feel like you’ve lost a huge piece of who you are but trust me, it’s still there somewhere.
It may not feel like it, but you’re free now. You’re free to choose what and who you spend your time with, what you like, and what you don’t. Unlike when he controlled your every move, you now have the power to choose your own destiny.
In the beginning, it will be hard to shake the feeling of guilt and fear that he gave you. You may still feel like you can’t really decide anything about your own life. However, once you start taking small steps, those will soon turn into bigger ones. Through the progress that you make, you’ll rediscover yourself again.
You Will Learn to Love Yourself Again
He made you loathe every part of yourself. Whenever he could, he put you down and made you feel like you were worthless. Even the most confident person in the entire world would lose the love they had of themselves if they had to face that every single day.
It’s going to take a lot of time and a lot of patience, but you won’t hate yourself forever. The view of yourself that that evil man gave you will slowly fade away. Despite how horrible you may feel now, with time you’ll see that all the awful things that he said about you weren’t true. You’ll be able to really love who you are, inside and out.
I Stood Where You Stood
You may feel alone right now, but nothing could be further from the truth. The reality is that there are thousands, perhaps millions, of other women who understand the position that you’re in. As one of those many women, I can safely say that you have our support and our love.
When I first left my relationship, I thought that things would never look up for me again. I truly believed that I would forever be miserable, alone, and hating myself. What I can tell you now is that that wasn’t true. With time, I moved on and am now living a life that’s more full of joy than I could have ever imagined.
I stood where you stood and made it out on the other side. If I can get through this pain then there is no reason that you can’t either. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that you can’t get through this. It may hurt now, but you are strong enough to keep fighting.
To the woman reading this who has been destroyed, hurt, and abused by a toxic man, you are worth so much more than that. You are worth kindness, compassion, and real love. Keep fighting to get through this because I know that there is a fierce warrior inside you who is ready to move on.